Boundaries are obvious markers in our relationships, indicating what behavior we expect and do not accept from others. Boundaries are the foundation of all relationships, including the one with oneself. Boundaries are walls that protect you from discomfort and inauthenticity. In other words, boundaries can be beneficial to our emotional, mental, and physical health.
Our bodies are messengers. For example, if a stranger places their hand on your back and makes you feel uneasy, that discomfort is your body's way of notifying you something is wrong. Similarly, if you feel fatigued, annoyed, or drained after conversing with someone, this could indicate that the individual is overstepping your boundaries.
The first step in establishing a boundary is to be clear about what you need to communicate with someone. Determine what type of change is required of them. It can go a long way toward creating a positive atmosphere. When you start with compassion, they are more likely to understand what you want and expect. Make it clear how you will behave if the conduct persists. Communicate your boundaries calmly, clearly, and assertively.
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