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Writer's pictureJosif TOSEVSKI

Accept People for What They Are but Place Them Where They Suit Best

In fact, living in a world with different personalities and varied backgrounds, it is really a challenging task to learn how to love people as they are and at the same time be sensitive to where they actually fit in our life. While it's great to love the uniqueness in every soul we meet, it is equally important to be thoughtful in curating our personal circles. Such a balance could hence lead to more harmonious relationships and a healthier emotional landscape.


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Accept Individuality


With every person comes a set of experiences, strengths, and flaws that define an individual. Acceptance of people for what they are starts with realizing that each has his journey to make, replete with different lessons to be learned and challenges to face. We open our hearts to other viewpoints and enrich our own lives, building a culture of empathy. That is not to say we have to tolerate actions and attitudes that do not meet with our standards; on the contrary, it means opening one's self to see through the superficiality onto another person's essence.


Setting Boundaries


While acceptance is key, setting boundaries certainly is also essential. Not everyone we encounter will bring positivity into our lives, and that is perfectly okay. Realizing this helps us in the maintenance of our mental health, knowing some people can only stay peripheral or even faraway positions. It doesn't have to mean an outright rejection but more of building where people can show up within the context of our lives. Understanding it is okay to put our first and our mental health can give us the healthy motivation we may need by setting boundaries where we do feel valued and protected.


Context Matters


Context helps us define where in our lives people fit. A co-worker might be an amazing work friend who does not match up with us in terms of personal philosophies or values. In this case, it allows us to acknowledge strong qualities and embrace them in a professional capacity, without demanding a deeper connection. The acceptance of the person will entail an acknowledgement of his or her values in some contexts and, as such, open up avenues toward healthier relationships.


Building Healthy Relationships


Wholesome relationships are a two-way thing in which both individuals respect and understand each other. We need to make it a point to surround ourselves with people who uplift us, share similar core values, and help us grow one way or another. That does not mean we should avoid those who cannot pass through the acid test of the latter criteria but learn how to appreciate them from afar and celebrate their uniqueness. This way, we know we respect ourselves and others by building an atmosphere that allows everyone to flourish, yet at different layers of intimacy.


Art to Be Balanced


Embracing people as themselves, while placing them where they belong, isn't just about performing a balancing act but rather an art to be balanced with practice and contemplation. Embracing individuality, setting appropriate boundaries, considering context, and fostering healthy relationships allow us the space to breathe among different personalities without losing our own identities. Remember, it's not that we reject anybody in the first place; the idea is to seek an appropriate space for everybody-including yourself. Nurturing a community that celebrates diversity and yet respects the sanctity of personal space could give you richer connections and a fuller life.

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